High Heels, Higher Truths: What Women Really Need Right Now

Let’s just be honest for a second.

The world keeps telling women what to do... meditate more, journal better, manifest harder, hustle like a boss, glow up, level up, rise and grind… blah blah blah.

And yet? So many women I work with still feel empty, tired, disconnected. Like they’re checking all the “healing” boxes but something’s still… missing.

It’s not that they’re doing it wrong. It’s that what they truly need has nothing to do with chasing the next version of themselves.

It’s about remembering the one they were before the world made them forget. (societal conditioning)

She’s Tired of Healing. She Just Wants to Feel Whole.

Now, from woman to woman.

There’s this subtle burnout happening in so many of us right now and no one’s really naming it.

It’s not the kind of tired that sleep fixes. It’s that soul-deep, bone-heavy kind of exhaustion that comes from being stuck in overdrive for too long.

It’s what happens when you’re living in your masculine energy 90% of the time and calling it "empowerment." Working, building, managing, fixing, achieving, hustling… constantly doing and don’t get me wrong, there’s beauty and strength in that. The masculine has its sacred place but when it becomes your default way of being, something starts to erode. Quietly, subtly but deeply.

You stop feeling, you stop receiving, you stop softening, you start performing, you start proving, you start protecting.

And then you wonder why you’re not attracting a real man, a present, emotionally mature, grounded man or why your current relationship is not working. But here’s the truth and I say it with all the love in the world: You can’t call in a truly masculine man or keep one, while living from your own masculine 24/7. It doesn’t work like that.

Because polarity matters. And nature doesn’t lie.

🧩 Think of It Like This...

You’re the ocean. Masculine energy is the anchor that holds your waves steady. Feminine energy is the water itself, deep, fluid, vast.

Now imagine trying to find a ship (real masculine love) in the ocean when you’re trying to be the anchor yourself. Neither vessels move. The connection stays offshore.

But once you embody the ocean, feel your depth and give space… the anchor naturally lands.

What Even Is Masculine and Feminine Energy?

We’re not talking gender here, we’re talking energy. Two forces, equally sacred, dancing together in everything.

Masculine energy is focused, structured, protective, forward-moving, logical, It’s the container, the provider, the protector.

Feminine energy is flow, feeling. creativity, the receiver, the vessel, the flow, the current, the portal. the space-holder, the womb of creation, the Yin, the sacred container, the stillness, the intuitive, the soft power.

We all have both inside of us but in a woman’s body, feminine energy is meant to be the anchor not the afterthought. It’s where we source our radiance, our power, our intuition. But modern life hasn’t made space for that. Not really.

We were taught to survive in masculine systems, school, work, relationships, even spirituality sometimes. We were told to push through, numb out, get things done, don’t fall apart, don’t cry, don’t need anyone, don't need a man, don't need to be nurturing...

And so we armoured up.

And then we wonder why we feel disconnected, anxious, burnt out or just meh.

⚡ The Masculine Trap: When “Strong” Starts to Hurt

Look around: the world hands out medals for women who can do it all, be it all, carry it all. We’re told to hustle, to never need anyone, to be independent at all costs and on the surface, that sounds like freedom. But let’s be honest… sometimes it’s not freedom. It’s exhaustion in disguise.

Somewhere along the way, many women began to wear this invisible badge that says “I don’t need a man.” But if we’re being real, that badge can start to feel like a shield, a heavy one. One that was probably born from pain, abandonment, betrayal, watching our mothers struggle, growing up too fast, not being protected.

Masculine energy, when it takes over, looks like constant doing, fixing, proving, and protecting. It’s being five steps ahead at all times. It's the nervous system that doesn’t get to rest. It's planning the trip, paying for the dinner, locking up the house, and still lying in bed wondering why no one’s catching you.

And here’s the raw truth...no grounded, emotionally available masculine man is going to thrive in that dynamic. Because you’ve left no space for him to be what he’s meant to be: the protector, the initiator, the container, the one who moves toward you.

If you’re already doing all the leading, making all the decisions, paying all the emotional rent, where does he fit in?

How can he arrive when the door is emotionally double-locked with your independence?

This isn’t about weakness. This isn’t about going backward. It’s about softening the edges that got too sharp from having to survive.

Because underneath that hyper-independence is often a tired heart. A woman who wants to be held, seen, cherished but who forgot how to need without feeling ashamed and less then.

So maybe, just maybe, part of real empowerment is letting someone show up for you. Not because you can’t do it all but because you finally know… you don’t have to. You can trust, you can receive because believe me, a real, high value man won’t have you second-guessing who you are!

Here’s Where It Gets Tricky

The toxic New Age spirituality swooped in with all the “tools.”

Manifest, journal, heal your inner child, do shadow work, clear your womb space, do somatic release, burn sage, pull cards, cleanse your aura, do your rituals under every full moon, and while some of it is beautiful and helpful and I coach it (except the rituals and the cards), a lot of it is becoming just another trap, another false matrix. Another way to convince yourself you’re “not ready” or “not healed enough” to live, to love, to receive.

Healing has become a performance.

And that’s not healing. That’s spiritual hustle, that is a trap! We’ve replaced corporate burnout with “conscious” burnout. It’s the same wound, it just wears white linen now.

So What Do We Actually Need?

To come back to the body, to soften, to feel, to trust our own timing. To reconnect with the feminine, the wild, wise, non-linear part of us that knows. That doesn’t need a ten-step plan or a fancy retreat to come alive.

We need to stop performing healing and start living from wholeness.

Because the truth is...most of what blocks us from deep love and real connection isn’t that we’re broken. It’s that we’re afraid to receive, afraid to let go, afraid to feel safe in softness.

And real, masculine energy, the grounded, kind, protective kind can’t come in if there’s no space for it. If you’re doing it all, controlling it all, holding it all, planning it all… then what role is left for him to play?

We need to feel safe in their own body.

Not to shrink it, fix it or numb it… but to land in it.

So many women are walking around disconnected from themselves. Not because they want to be but because somewhere along the line, they learned it wasn’t safe to feel. That their softness was weakness. That their rest meant laziness. That slowing down meant falling behind.

But I think what most women are really craving is this: A nervous system that doesn’t feel like it’s under attack. A body that feels like a home not a battleground. Peace without needing to earn it.

We want real connection, not more noise.

We’re more “connected” than ever but lonelier than ever too. Women are scrolling for hours, watching everyone else’s highlight reels and wondering why they feel so unseen.

What’s missing isn’t content, it’s presence, soulful conversations, sacred friendships, safe spaces to be real and not feel weird about it. To say “I’m not okay” and not be fixed, just held.

We want to remember who we are, not just play roles.

So many women come to me and say: I have the job, I have the relationship, the home but why do I feel… lost?

It’s because no one teaches us how to be ourselves...just how to perform. Daughter, partner, mother, boss. But under all that? There’s a voice, a rhythm, a YOU that’s been buried.

And now, that voice is getting louder.

We are done with guilt around boundaries.

Women are taught to be nice, to keep the peace, to say yes even when their gut says no but that’s what burns them out. That’s what builds resentment, that’s what makes them forget their own needs.

What they want is to protect their peace, without hardening their heart. To say no with love, to honour their energy without explanation.

We’re reclaiming the feminine.

Not in a trendy, aesthetic way but for real.

We are tired of living like machines, tired of hustle culture, tired of being told that rest = laziness.

There’s a quiet revolution happening. Women are starting to lead from intuition, from softness, from slowness.

Not because we’re weak but because we’re wise.

So What’s Really Missing?

Feeling at home in their body

Being seen without having to perform

Remembering who they are underneath all the roles

Saying no without guilt

Growing without shame

Living in rhythm, not in a rush

And above all?

Women want to feel like they’re not alone.

This is what I see in the women who sit across from me, in the ones who write to me, the ones I coach and guide, in the ones who cry mid-sentence and say, “I don’t know why I’m crying.”

It’s because their soul is speaking and it’s finally being heard.

So no, they don’t need another list of affirmations, they need to be seen, held, witnessed, reconnected, they need truth not perfection.

They need to know that who they are is not “too much. They are just right.

And they are already on their way back home.

Feminine Power Isn’t Weakness — It’s Wisdom

It’s choosing rest over burnout, discernment over endless fixing, trust over control.

It’s knowing that your softness is not your flaw, it’s your gift. It’s the space where your radiance lives. It’s what makes a man want to show up, lead, protect, honour.

Because he feels invited, not replaced.

And no, this doesn’t mean dim your light. It means stop dimming your truth just to stay in control.

You Don’t Need to Keep Healing. You Need to Start Receiving.

That’s the shift. From effort to ease.

From overthinking to trusting.

From “I’m not ready” to “I’m already enough.”

You’re not here to earn love, prove your worth or fix yourself into someone lovable.

You’re here to remember who you were before the world told you to harden!

So breathe, darling.

Drop the sword.

Unclench your jaw.

Let yourself be seen.

Let yourself want.

Not because you’re broken but because you’re beautifully whole and finally ready to live from that place.

With love and realness,

Maria