Took the Wrong Train…Woke Up in the Wrong Life!

Why Live Out of Alignment? Seriously.

Let’s be real.

Life is so short. Not in a dramatic, “oh no, we’re all dying!” way… but in a real, practical, grounded sense. We wake up, answer a few emails, go through the motions, blink and it’s Christmas again. The years are flying. So why, why, are so many of us spending that precious time living out of alignment with who we are and how we want to feel?

Let’s talk about alignment.

Alignment isn’t some mystical unicorn state where everything is perfect and you float through your days burning palo santo and sipping adaptogen lattes. Alignment is real. It’s a felt sense that your inner world matches your outer choices, that your yes means yes, that you’re not saying “I’m fine” while your stomach is in knots and your energy’s leaking all over the place.

It's when your values, desires, work, relationships, voice, even how you spend your mornings... all sing the same song.

But here’s what I’ve seen, over and over again. Smart, soulful women who know what alignment feels like, yet still find themselves in jobs that drain them, relationships that dull them or habits that numb them. It’s like some part of them is living on a totally different timeline. And they know it.

So why do we sabotage alignment?

Honestly? Conditioning.

Most of us were trained, not taught, to self-abandon early. Be nice, be useful, be productive, be less loud, less sensitive, less much. We learned that surviving meant fitting in and we internalised that being accepted was more important than being honest. So we shrink, we perform or we go silent.

And little by little, we slide out of alignment.

At first, it’s subtle. You say yes when you mean no. You keep the peace when something’s screaming inside you. You laugh at a joke that makes you cringe. You keep dating someone because it “makes sense” even if you feel like a ghost in their presence.

You tell yourself, It’s not that bad, and maybe it isn’t… yet.

But fast-forward a few months or years and suddenly, you’re living in a version of your life that was never really yours. You’ve time-traveled into a parallel reality you don’t even like. You wake up in a body that’s exhausted, in a relationship that makes you anxious, in a job that gives you Sunday dread.

And the wildest part? You built it all by being who you thought you had to be.

Here’s the truth: every time you step out of alignment, you step onto the wrong train track.

You get off at a station that isn’t yours and outside that station is a completely different life. It might look okay at first, interesting even but it isn’t yours. So to stay there, you adapt, you shrink, you adjust, you try to make it work.

And sometimes, you stay in that town for months or years. You build friendships, careers, relationships in that space but if it’s not your town, if it was never meant to be your stop, things will start to feel off. The job loses its shine, the relationship starts to feel heavy, you feel tired, uninspired, restless.

That’s the divine signal. That’s the nudge. That life is slowly starting to crumble not because you failed but because your soul is saying “you’re not home.”

And that’s when the discomfort ramps up. Life doesn’t punish you, it redirects you. The Divine will keep turning the volume up until you get back on that train. Until you choose to leave the wrong town and make your way to the one that was always meant for you.

So how do we come back?

You get honest. Not dramatic, not chaotic...just honest.

What feels fake?

What feels heavy?

What are you tolerating that you’d never want your daughter or best friend to tolerate?

What parts of you are you performing... and why?

How do you feel in the morning before you go to work?

How do your friends make you feel?

What type of energy are you sitting in day in and day out?

You don't need to burn it all down. You just need to start telling yourself the truth again.

And then: tiny, sacred pivots.

You say no, even if your voice shakes, you stop texting the guy who drains you you change your morning routine so it feels like yours again, you start writing, singing, resting without feeling guilty, you start honouring your feelings, you start saying what you really think, you go full on on boundaries and the list goes on...

Because when you're in alignment, life gets clearer, there’s less friction, more ease, more empowerment, more trust, you stop hustling for worth because you remember who you are.

Alignment isn’t a luxury. It’s your home frequency.

And no, you won’t always get it right But the more you choose you, the more magnetic everything becomes. The right people show up, the right ideas land, your nervous system calms, your energy expands.

And suddenly, you are no longer hustling to keep up with life...You’re actually living it, enjoying it, savouring it, loving it!

So ask yourself gently today:

Is this version of me aligned with the life I say I want? If not, beautiful.

Now you know. Now you get to choose differently. You get to step back onto that train, leave that station and quantum jump into your timeline.

Let’s not waste another season in someone else’s story.

You deserve to wake up in a life that feels like yours!

With love

Maria